I think you can tell a private seller from a reseller by several signs taken together. A reseller usually does not know the ownership history well, cannot clearly say where and how the car was serviced, and often tries to steer the conversation away from specific questions. Checking the VIN through
FAXVIN helps you quickly see how many owners the car had, and you can then ask the seller about it and compare the info. But in any case, every seller needs to be checked and should never get 100 percent trust right away.