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I'd also like to share my opinion on this matter, though I accidentally ran into Inwe's last post while I was browsing the forum. Personally, I think this topic is very fitting for the AU Gentlewoman Club

Well, first of all maybe I should say that I have absolutely no love experience. I've never had serious love interest in someone from the opposite gender. Attracted to some one - yes (especially if he's blond ), but nothing more.

But of course, like every girl, I've thought of a serious relationship at some point. To be more precise: I've wondered what it would be to have a serious relationship. And here's my vision of the knight in the shining armour, a.k.a Mr. Perfect:

Appearance and money doesn't concern me at all. A person's moral and qualities were always in the first line.

Intelligence was always an important characteristic to me. And under "intelligence" I don't mean being super smart or something like that. Not at all. To me an intelligent person is someone, who knows his own capabilities, who doesn't talk big, like he's the ultimate being in the universe.

Also, as Inwe said, a good friend. I've always thought that the good friendship is a solid base for a relationship. He should accept me the way I am - with my good and bad sides; to show me understanding when I need to, but also to criticise me when I step too out of the character, to be honest with me. In other words to be, as they say, "my mainstay in life". Well, maybe not in life, but as long as we are together.

Good sense of humour - yes, the good ol' sense of humour! I just hate it when someone doesn't estimate the situation or the person in front of him properly and starts with the stupid jokes.

And the most important of all, the one I'd choose to be with must be someone whom I can trust. I've become a very suspicious person lately because of past events in my life, that's why I'd like to know that the man, who is going to be with me, won't let me down on purpose.

But who knows - maybe I'd end up with someone, who doesn't have these characteristics. The love is a funny thing - it comes without asking at any moment.

And marriage and children - well, I'm not against it. But I haven't made up my mind yet. The idea of becoming a mother later is pleasant and at the same time terrifying. I guess the time will show.

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My goodness, guys and/or boyfriends, future spouses. Such an often repeated topic

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Within the auburn of her hair
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♥In a poly relationship with Kili and Tauriel♥

Is there something you would rather talk about Mrs. Haldir lol.

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"Holmes is a little too scientific for my tastes -- it approaches to cold-bloodedness"

Not at the moment, I was just mentioning how the men topic is the most talked about subject. Of course, we women change our minds about men all the time lol

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And as he looked into her eyes
Within the auburn of her hair
The trembling starlight of the skies
He saw there mirrored bright and fair

♥In a poly relationship with Kili and Tauriel♥

Really? Interesting lol Whatever floats your boat. I'm a straight woman. My younger sister is bi, she's a little more into women than men but she will date men, and I have an aunt who is a lesbian. I personally don't care, I'm not a closed minded person. I have nothing against anyone's sexuality.

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And as he looked into her eyes
Within the auburn of her hair
The trembling starlight of the skies
He saw there mirrored bright and fair

♥In a poly relationship with Kili and Tauriel♥

Sure, why not? Although I think just about everything has been discussed here XD

Boringly straight XD I love it. There no place to compare for me, I'm 100 percent straight so only guys for me thank you lol I went on vacation to an island off the coast of the state I live in, I swear they way people say it, it's like every island woman there is bi. They had assumed that I was and one of my sister's guy friends was like "You know, if ever want to like 'do stuff' I know a couple of girls"...yada yada, don't remember the rest, but I didn't know what he meant by 'do stuff' until he told me he meant like experimant sexually and I was like, "No, no no. I don't do that." lol I did laugh at the situation, it was funny in a way. I do stuff like that to men only, and secondly I don't do stuff like that causally, I think it's wrong. But he was cool about it and was like, "Okay, just thought I'd say something." lol Everyone there seemed to stare at me like I had two heads because I said I was straight though lol

Why wouldn't I be? I haven't any current that are actually lesbian, but I've had a co-worker in the past that was. She was cool though.

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And as he looked into her eyes
Within the auburn of her hair
The trembling starlight of the skies
He saw there mirrored bright and fair

♥In a poly relationship with Kili and Tauriel♥

Hello, i do belive i am part of this club, though i haven't posted in here for yeaaaaaaaaaaaaars.

I went to an all girls school and 25% of my year was either lesbein or bi. (But bare in mind there was only 30 people in my year) This only caused problems when two of the girls on my inner freindship group started going out and then broke up. It was awwwwful, so catty and they both got really upset about it and it devided the whole year though my freindship group tried to stay neutral becuase it was our last year before uni.

The big shock is now one of them is getting married, fine, BUT TO A GUY!!! She has never been intrested in men at all and now???? The other thing is none of us have been asked to the wedding. And its not like we weren't good freinds cos we were a boarding school, we were virtually familly to each other for 7 years!!

Persoanly I classed myself bi for quite abit of school though now i would say i'm straighter. I'v pulled(made out with) a fair number of girls but never gone much furthur than that, but i should add i didn't do anything really with a guy till university, in fact before uni i had pulled and done more stuff with girls than i had with guys. On the other hand I was in an enviroment where that was anything but a problem and no one cared what you did.

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I appreciate the beauty of the human body equally. Oh dear, haha, that makes me sound straight up bi. I will admit though I do look at girls, I have no shame so I can admit that I am attracted to girls but I do like guys a lot more. I get along with them a whole heck of a lot better too.

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"Holmes is a little too scientific for my tastes -- it approaches to cold-bloodedness"

Let's try to get this going again. : )

Annabel - I sorta get where you're coming from. I have a "type" when it comes to other females and I do find females attractive as well. However, I know for a fact that I am 200% straight, and while I find females attractive as well, it's definitely in a different way than how I see men. If that even makes sense. I can't be sexually attracted to a female, nor could I ever be interested in a relationship beyond friendship with one. It just seems really wrong for me personally. Which makes me straight.

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OMG, Haldir, what did you do to your name?????

Umm... regarding the topic.. I generally find females attractive and more beautiful than men, but when it comes to sexual attraction I'm only imteersted in males...

This thread is almost on 1000 pages, how on earth did we get here? What have people been talking about for so many pages? Haldir, a kickstart of the discussion would be nice... but I forgot what was the original idea of the topic?

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Bwahaha, I just figured out that the inactive user who had the name "Haldir" squatted for the last 5 years has been deleted, so I can now use the name.

And I honestly have no idea, I was probably only really active here for the first 50 pages or so, then I just kinda drifted off. Uhhhm. Feminine topics I guess. Seems like the discussion was on about men for a good while. Which I seem to have missed out on. But the conversation seems to have drifted from "the ideal guy" to sexual orientation. So maybe we could carry on from there. For the ladies who haven't responded yet. Marriage/no marriage? What do you find attractive in the opposite gender - or same gender if that's how you roll (both physical and personality-wise)?

For me... marriage is an absolute must for me in the future. I want to get married at some point (preferably late 20's), and I definitely want children and a family. I don't date guys unless they seem to me to have the potential of being a decent husband in the future, with a bright-looking future and not some worthless burnout. And they have to have this same goal in a relationship. I can't date a guy who only wants to fool around - only guys that are interested in serious long-term relationships.

As for what I find attractive. Physically - I like tall lean men with soft features and long hair (preferably brown mid-back), and I also do find little butts to be very attractive on men All of my boyfriends have always seemed to fit this criteria perfectly, even though I'm not really anal about physical appearance all that much. Uhhhm, personality-wise... someone who's confident but not cocky, responsible and mature, emotionally generous and attentive, someone who cares about me and respects me as more than just "their" woman, and someone who takes a relationship seriously (ex., no problems with being faithful). I also can't date someone who doesn't have the same taste in music as me, because that there is 75% of my daily lifestyle. We'd just be too different and our social circles would be too different as well. It would also. be nice if they had some artistic ability (dancing, art, music... anything).

Fortunately my current bf is most of those things, only problem is he's really sensitive and takes things too personally sometimes. It's hard to joke around with him or to tease him at all. And he's a bit of a douche to people for the most part. If I see someone hurt or sick on the street, I immediately run over to do everything in my power to help them. He's the exact opposite... the kind that would pretend he never saw anything and hurry off, or tell me to just leave them alone and mind my own business. He only cares about himself and me. That's it. He's really arrogant too, even though he doesn't realize it at all. But other than that, he's amazing. Nobody's perfect afterall.

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I want to get married someday. I'm not in any hurry about it though, I am single after all Kids I'm not decided on, but that's something that I'll figure out with whoever I end up with.

As for what I find attractive, I've been known to be a bit all over the place. But I definitely like black guys, and muscly is good. I'm trying not to let appearances be too important though, because after all that's not what makes a person who they are. It's important to have similar interests, but not all the same cause I'd get bored. And I need someone who can handle the fact that I'm not always cheerful and outgoing, I can be somewhat emo and anti-social at times. I dunno, though. I guess if someone ever comes along who's as perfect for me as they get, I'll be happy with how he is

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Hmm, I've wanted my username to be Eleniel ever since I joined the forum. There's a mod with that name and she's only made two posts on this board.. but I guess I'm stuck with this name forever in eternity!


That's interesting Haldir.. you never struck me as the marrying-kind-of-girl. I haven't seriously thought about marriage. Perhaps because it hasn't been an issue yet. I don't have a dream of getting married but I wouldn't mind - if my boyfriend (to come!) wanted us to tie the knot. Relationships is about making compromises as well as making each other happy.

A thing I've thought about though is what things he absolutely needs to fulfill and I think we need to match on a fundamental thing like general worldview and values. This means he must share my views on religion and how to be a responsible person in the world.

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^Can't you maybe talk to the mods about that? I mean, someone who never ever posts shouldn't be holding up usernames that others want, right?

And I agree with what you said about religion etc, too. It's really important to me if I'm to be in a relationship with someone that they share my views on these things.

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Oh I definitely want to get married, perhaps around my mid 20's? I'm somewhat like you Haldir where I only get into serious relationships with guys I can see myself settling down with. I don't think I can do casual relationships because I tend to get too attached... Religion is a huge issue for me, I'd prefer to be with someone who shares my views. My last relationship actually was with someone of a different faith, and I couldn't see myself changing for him and his family which is why I broke it off.

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